Guest: Chris Wildeboer
Presenter: Wayne Bucklar
Guest Bio: Chris Wildeboer is the founder of Balance Central and has been working in the Wellness Industry for over 18 years. She has been nominated for a charity award, co-authored a bestselling book and loves making an impact through the conversations she has every day.
Balance Central was established in 2009 and has grown rapidly through networking and ongoing referrals. In particular, Chris loves to work with people who are ready to recognize the recurring patterns that are holding them back in their life and their business. She helps them to achieve greater success through self-awareness – which ultimately leads to a productive and healthier work/life balance. Chris describes herself as an Entrepreneur, an Author, and a Speaker and Chris loves gaining new perspectives for herself and others through good quality conversations – bringing a greater self-awareness for everyone.
Segment Overview: In this segment, Chris Wildeboer joins the program to promote the amazing life changing services offers through Balance Central. She talks about the kind of clients that she works with how her programs help them achieve success through self-awareness which is considered to be an important element in achieving a healthier, productive and meaningful work/life balance.
Wayne Bucklar: You’re listening to Business Radio Talkers.FM. My name is Wayne Bucklar and joining me in conversation today is Chris Wildeboer. Now Chris runs a business called Balance Central and it doesn’t immediately tell me whether that’s gymnastics or what it is so let’s ask. Chris, welcome to the show and what is “Balance Central?”
Chris Wildeboer: Hi Wayne, it is absolutely lovely to be here. Balance Central is about finding our own personal balance by finding our own center and that is a different thing for every different person.
Wayne: And one of those people who’s heard people talking about being centered and heard people talking about looking for balance, what are the symptoms I’m going to find? What is going to drive me to believe that I’m unbalanced or that I’m uncentered? How does it feel when you’ve got it wrong?
Chris: That’s a big question that has a lot of answers. But one of the top three I find is people feel frustrated really easily and their tolerance level is low. So that can show up with family members easily enough or even if they’re driving home and cars in front of them because people are just not doing what they should be doing. But that’s an evidence of our own self not feeling calm, and centered and okay with the world around us. So the frustration is number one. Number two would be just like any normal care factor about engaging with the world. You can feel a bit like you’re just, “I’m not very happy” and nothing really enthuses you, that’s another indication that centered is not really part of your world. And I think the third one is reacting, not necessarily with frustration, just reacting. So extreme reactions will also show up as not balanced and not centered.
Wayne: So who are the people you work with? I can recognize those kind of symptoms in myself and in lots of other people. Who are the people that you work with?
Chris: People that have recognized that in themselves and actually want to do something about it. So I’ll use my husband as an example. He is forever the longest time that I’ve known him, he almost enjoys getting frustrated at the cars around him and the people around him and particularly when he’s driving because he gets, “Ahhhh, you’re doing that, that’s just ridiculous. I just don’t want to do with this.” And he kind of enjoys the interaction so he’s not ready to change that frustration because it kind of gives him a bit of a win. And people are ready to change the frustration and they want something to be different, that’s when they come and knock on my door. When they’ve finally gone, “This pattern I keep defaulting into, it doesn’t work for me anymore,” that’s when they show up.
Wayne: Right, that makes a lot of sense really. So those people seek you out, how do you put it together?
Chris: Right. Well the business is 9 years old. So it’s been a bit of a progression over that 9 years and at this point in time, a lot of my one-on-one consultations are all referral based. I’d say 90% are referral based. Even new clients have been referred to me or it’s repeat clients. I think that’s a natural thing that happens with a business like mine over that length of time. But what I actually do and have been doing for the last few years is working with people more out of a team environment and then working with them individually. So I guess that’s still referral based but it’s where I engage with people, and find and help them identify where those frustrations are actually lined. And then, they get motivated to do something about it so then they come and tap me on the shoulder. So there’s multiple ways that people find and access me. But really at the end of the day, whether it’s through a corporate event or through someone finding me on social media, they’re just ready to make a change. They’ve gone, “This is just annoying me now, I need to do something else” and that’s when I start working with them because they’ve opened up the conversation.
Wayne: Now Chris, you do a lot of public speaking too as well don’t you?
Chris: Yes I do.
Wayne: So this is conferences, and keynotes, and corporate events and are you talking there on the same theme of balance?
Chris: Yes. I make it a little bit more I’d say surface level consumable. And I say that because I’m so used to working on a really personal deep level that I really want people to start to be aware of who they are in the world and where they show up. So they really need to start to understand initially who else is around them. So you might have someone who’s a highly organized type of person and they seem to have all these people around them that just have all the ideas all the time and they just get really frustrated with these people that have lots of ideas. So when I speak at conferences, I try and identify for people in a really broad way, who we are and how we’re different. So when we start to identify people that are outside of ourselves and we can understand the differences, we actually start to understand ourselves a little more and that’s what I do as a speaker. So I get people to look at their self, their values and their resistance to that and talk they have around that. So it’s really about identifying themselves by looking at who’s around them.
Wayne: Chris, I’ve been cruising through your website and noticed you have some products. Tell us about those products and how people can buy them.
Chris: So there are three main services that I offer and one starts as a single session which is allowing people to I guess get a taste of what it is that the work is and how it can affect their life and then I offer a couple of programs. So one is called, “Self-nourishment” and that is an ability for people to be proactive. It’s a bit like taking a car for service every six months. It just allows you to get a little bit more ahead of the game. And then I have one that’s called, “Unlock Your Power” and that is about coming really strongly into what we are attracting in our world and where our power is in that attraction. I also have a few books and things as well that are available through the website but as far as services go, those are the three areas that I love to work in because that’s the individual work that really engages people back into themselves.
Wayne: Yes. Chris our audience is predominantly we think at least that they need to all click on the like button and tell us about themselves. But we think they’re kind of 40s or they’re abouts and running their own businesses and probably busy people, what’s the takeaway message for them today?
Chris: Number one, be kind to yourself. We often run around doing things for everybody else particularly when we run our own business. We are needing to show up for others so whether it’s clients or it’s our team members or we need to show up for our business so that we can put food on the table for our family. We seem to run around for everybody else in some version. And so we really need to be kind to ourselves and allow ourselves to have an input of happiness and in that kindness, one of the best ways to be kind to ourselves is to remember to ask for help because we get caught in thinking we need to do it all and we logically know this, but emotionally it’s really a difficult thing to put our hand up and just say, “Hey, I need some help. I can’t do it all.”
Wayne: Yes. I can recognize that in my own behavior and maybe I speak on behalf of men everywhere here, asking for help or directions is just not part of our vocabulary.
Chris: Yes. And I think one of the hesitations that people have in asking for help is they don’t know what help they want. And one of the key things that I love about what I offer is people don’t have to articulate it, they just have to say, “Hey Chris, I need a conversation.” And by having that conversation, we get to find out what’s sitting underneath their frustration in their world and they just go, “Wow, I would have never said it like that and yet, that’s the thing.” So if people can come to me without fully being able to articulate it, I have to go a bit of a unique concept because normally, you go, “Oh, I’ve got this problem, I must ask for help from this person because they’ll solve it for me.” People actually get to work with me without fully articulating what the problem is, they just have to recognize that this is something.
Wayne: Chris Wildeboer, it’s fascinating having a chat with you. For people that who have been listening to us and have gone, “I want to have a conversation with that lady,” what’s the best way for them to get in touch with you?
Chris: Website is the first point of call, so balancecentral.com.au. I’m also more than happy for people to contact me directly on my email, [email protected] because conversations are vital. It’s one of the reasons that I absolutely put my hand up to have this conversation with you. So there’s something that happens when we can do an exchange of energy. So I’m more than willing for people to contact me directly at any time.
Wayne: Well let’s hope that those people out there who are feeling some of those symptoms we talked about earlier and are thinking, “Things are not quite like the way I’d like them.” Hop on the website, drop you an email, get in touch somehow. Chris, I do appreciate your giving up your time today. I realized you’re a busy person, thanks for being available to us.
Chris: Thank you very much Wayne. I look forward to our next conversation.
Wayne: For those of you who have just joined us on Business Radio Talkers.FM, I’ve been in conversation with Chris Wildeboer. Now the good news is you haven’t missed the conversation altogether because we have a transcript on our website, we also have an audio archive on SoundCloud, YouTube and iTunes where you can listen to the whole conversation from beginning to end. You’ve been listening to Business Radio Talkers.FM, my name is Wayne Bucklar and please don’t forget, click the “Like” button, we love the feedback.